Are You a Persuasive or Manipulative Marketer?

Marketing often walks a fine line between persuasion and manipulation. Some critics even say it’s all manipulation, no persuasion!

I’ve always championed ethical strategies and tactics that use decision-making psychology to help customers make up their minds. That’s effective persuasion. But today, I see marketers using aggressive tactics masquerading as “conversion-focused copy.”

Did marketers get lazy? Or are they desperate? Whatever the reason, I see marketers using persuasion psychology as weapons, not as tools for clarity and connection. This leads to a rise in dark patterns, fake urgency, and shady psychological pressure tactics that do nothing but erode trust.

I’m here to set the record straight!

Persuasion ≠ manipulation

“Persuasion” gets a bad rap. But persuasion — real persuasion — is not about tricking people. It’s about helping them. It still aims to change their minds but uses logic and reason and removes barriers or misunderstandings so your points are clear and understandable. It’s all above board.

Ethical persuasion is a service.

• It guides your customers to make informed decisions.
• It removes friction and confusion.
• It recognises where they are in their journey and offers the right solutions at the right time.

In contrast, manipulation preys on insecurities, shame, or panic to drive a decision that benefits only the brand. It’s trickery instead of service.

It’s also yesterday’s news. Manipulation is brand-first messaging in a customer-first world.

Let’s talk about the dirty tricks

Marketers who use manipulation often rely on dark patterns and false narratives like these:

1. Fake urgency: Example: “Only 3 left!” when stock is unlimited. In the United States, this tactic might be illegal, too. A Washington State court recently upheld a consumer complaint accusing Old Navy of using deceptive subject lines on emails promoting a deadline-driven campaign.
2. Guilt-tripping: Example: “You’ll regret this forever if you don’t act now.”
3. Hidden fees and trick pricing: Example: Surprise charges at checkout. Again in the U.S., the Federal Trade Commission recently banned “junk” fees, often tacked on to ticket or travel purchases.
4. Shady opt-ins: Example: Pre-checking opt-in boxes, hiding opt-in requirements in terms and conditions or camouflaging unsubscribe links in email messages. This is illegal in many countries, including EU members subject to GDPR.
5. Emotional blackmail: Example: Opt-in popovers that label an opt-out link “Only bad parents would skip this offer” or “No, I don’t care about saving money.”

These tactics aren’t clever marketing. They are exploitation dressed up in pixels and pop-ups that guilt you when you close them.

What ethical persuasion looks like

Persuasion respects your audience and builds trust. It’s rooted in behavioural science, psychology, and empathy. Take time to read up on how humans make decisions and how you can reach people where they are instead of trying to force or trick them into decisions.

Persuasive design uses these principles to make decision-making easier. Another tool is tapping into the emotional shortcuts people use to decide. This is System 1 thinking, which is our emotional, intuitive response to information both good and bad.

Are you a persuasive marketer? See how many qualities you share from my list:

• You meet people where they are through lifecycle marketing, segmentation, and relevance.
• You use cognitive biases ethically using social proof, curiosity, or reducing the paradox of choice. You don’t promote fearmongering.
• You tap into desires, values, and motivations instead of manufacturing fake scarcity or panic.
• You respect boundaries and privacy with transparent choices, clear opt-ins, and zero sleight of hand.
• You build long-term relationships with customers because real persuasion isn’t about getting an immediate sale. It’s about the next one, and the one after that.

Write for humans, not algorithms

If you want your brand to last — if you care about lifetime value, referrals, and reputation — ditch the manipulation.

Write with clarity. Design with empathy. Market with respect.

In a world full of clickbait, be the brand your customers can trust.